Why DIETS don’t work…

It’s monday, time to start a fresh week…what’s your monday motivation?
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If you’re anything like I’ve been you may see every week (and even every day) as a fresh start, but then by the end of the day motivation is different and you end up eating off plan and then feel like a failure….omg. Yeah, i get it…And truthfully even though i kept getting back up and trying again…deep down i just wanted to eat like a “normal” person.
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I remembered feeling so relieved when Marc David Ipe (Founder of the institute for the psychology of Eating) said “You’re not just a will-power weakling. Every weight and eating challenge is rooted in biology, psychology or both.”
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So, if you have been like many others, who every monday tell yourself – it’s a new week. This is a fresh start… you weigh yourself and are brave and hop back on your diet. Good for you. I know you have been trying so hard. And honestly?…I know you’ve done the best you can, on your own…
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But if you have the following questions 

-why is it so hard to stick to my diet?
-why can’t i just keep the weight off?
-what plan is the one that will finally work for me?

I’m here to tell you, there are answers. They all free you from feeling like there’s something wrong with you.  
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The truth is that every action is prompted by a feeling. Every feeling stems from perspective of the situation. Your perspectives were created by your beliefs. And your beliefs came from your programming.  
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So, if you keep working up the monday motivation, I’m so proud of you…I know you want results.  
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If you want results and are ready to quit trying so hard without the results you want…I’m here for you.
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Just send me a message so we can start your journey to FOOD FREEDOM! 

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Hey there, Happy Tuesday!
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Let’s talk about kids for a minute, ok? (I’m sure you have little people in your life, whether you are a parent of them or not)….do those little people care about the exact number you weigh?
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Nope, they don’t.
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Judgement is something we learn as we age. When you were a young child, all you really wanted was to be loved and cared for. That’s what our little people want from us too. I promise, they just want you to be happy.
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I share this in hopes of sparing you some of the time that can be wasted by obsessing about a particular number on the scale. (If I could go back and change anything about my kids younger years…this would be it!
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You can be happy today, no matter what you weigh!
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Just send me a message if i can support you along the way.
I know you can do it, cuz if I can do it…you can too. ❤

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I’ve had people tell me relationships feel supportive to their diet, but I’ve also had people say it makes it harder.
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Personally, when I feel understood and loved I tend to have less struggle in relationship to food. So therefore, I find great value in working on having a good relationship with my people, especially my hubby.
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You know what helps me in relationship? It’s curiousity!
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For example, one can assume they knew what the other person meant and feel offended. Or when you notice you felt hurt by what the other said, you could ask…what did you mean by that?  
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It may sound simple, but when triggered by a comment made by someone who knows you REAL well…i won’t lie…It can feel really tough. However, with practice it gets easier.  
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What makes it easier to catch myself before reacting to a comment made by my own dear hubby is learning to be more aware. Being more conscious, practicing being more present in the current moment. (The awesome thing about asking more questions is it gives my best friend a chance to explain what he meant rather than be misunderstood and I get my feelings hurt less often.)
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How about you…what have you found helps you in your closest relationships. Comment below to share.

Day off with the hubby (and food). How does that go for you?
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If you are anything like I’ve been, it may be a bit complicated. Like of course I wanna head to the beach with my hubby and I can’t imagine saying no, like ever! But, the food thing tended to end up complicated.
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When in diet culture, I felt like since I’m not at my “perfect” weight (where does that number even come from, but anyhow..) I had to be on a diet. So we had to pack up all the things, like a cooler full of fruit and veggie options and some snacks, but only the ones allowed on my plan for me. And then we had to stop at a certain coffee shop, Java crew cuz they are the only shop who has that certain sugar free white mocha mix I actually like and that is the only way it’s low enough calorie (sugar free). (Honestly, i ended up falling off my plan and eating kids candy or something every time anyhow, so I’m not sure why It took me 15 married years to figure this out….but anyhow!)
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My point being, if it feels complicated. I get it. And if you’ve got a keeper (like I do Martin Seiter) he probably doesn’t complain much. But, what if…what if I told you there is another way?
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There’s a life of freedom from diet culture where you get to choose whether you want to obsess about every calorie or enjoy life at the beach and food and eat your veggies a different day. There’s a life where your whole day doesn’t revolve around what you eat or don’t eat and you can enjoy the sand on your feet and actually be at ease. There’s a life where you don’t think much about the food and just hit the road, then stop for what sounds good and only eat til full.  
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There’s a life, where you can actually enjoy your life. You can actually be happy no matter what you weigh. If this is a life you want to have too… I promise you, my friend…no number on the scale could ever create THIS feeling for you.
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You were meant for so much more than JUST dieting! My hope for you is that one day (soon) you believe it too. ❤

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Are you a mama who just wants to get the weight off? Especially after being mostly home with little people, we realize it does seem easier to gain weight than lose it…doesn’t it? (what’s it called the covid-15…?)
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I get it. Believe me, it may seem like life will be so much better once you lose the weight. And yes, we can get around better and probably do have more energy when at a healthy body weight.
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However, I would love to spare you the disappointment I felt when I got to my goal (after 25 years of trying) and nothing was any easier…when it comes to food habits.
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So, one thing I have found helpful and want to share with YOU is this….
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When determining what plan or style of eating you hope to incorporate into your life….remember the people you are responsible for feeding. It may seem an insignificant thing….And yes, I spent years eating my “special” foods cuz I was dieting. But the pounds lost “that” way came right back.
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For sustainable weight loss, we must establish what habits are sustainable long term.
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If you are done with the yo-yo of quick fix diet methods and want results that last….let’s talk.
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My name’s Jen and I offer stress-less eating coaching where we experience long lasting results.

Drop a comment below or send me a message…cuz you were meant for more than JUST dieting!

If you’ve been working on getting to that one number, or trying super hard to stay there…I get it. I was too.
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But if you stop and think about it, you may realize that is just a number you one day determined you should weigh.
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I know that is what happened to me.
One day I looked around, I was bigger than a lot of my teenage friends so I looked up what I should weigh and the encyclopedia (yea, I’m that old) told me at 5 foot you should be 100 pounds and every inch after that you “got” 5 pounds more and wa-la. I decided I was fat.
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My point, friends!? If this resonates with you it may be time to re-evaluate. What story are you telling yourself.
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What is truly important to you?
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Is it important just to get to a certain number on a scale or are experiences and making memories a more worthwhile goal?
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Personally, I’ve re-evaluated (and I won’t lie, it was hard to change habits I spent a long time forming) but I now have more practical goals.
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Now my goal is to eat in the way that supports the life i want to be living, regardless of what the scale itself says.
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People will remember how you treated them and how they felt while with you. Most likely, no one else cares at all what number you actually weigh.
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Comment below and share – Are you happy with your current goals? Or is it time to revisit them – if so, message me. ❤️

Toxic nutritional beliefs – have you heard of those before?
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A toxic nutritional belief includes all those thoughts like –

1. Fat in food makes me fat.
2. I wish I could just eat like “normal” people.
3. I can’t control myself around food.

Do any of those sound familiar to you?

I will never forget the day I realized the reason I avoid baking or Discovering new recipes is because it involved more time in the kitchen.  

Time in the kitchen = time with food. Time with food lead to wanting to eat more food. Eating more food would lead to gaining weight. Gained weight meant I had less value….. (You get the point!?)

Thankfully with the help of psychology of eating, I no longer avoid food.  

I eat when I am hungry. My goal is to eat in a way that supports living the life I love to live.

How about you? Do you have any Toxic nutritional beliefs? Drop a comment to share below.

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Do you suffer from destination addiction?
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Destination addiction: The belief that life will be SO much better when you are thin (or when you are less stressed, have more money, aren’t in quarentine anymore etc)
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In all honesty, I get it. It is easy to think if outward circumstances were different, we would be happier.
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But the truth is this, if you aren’t happy now…you won’t be happy when you are thinner either.
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Some of the best advice I ever got regarding this topic was this, make an inventory list of all the things that will be better when you are thinner. Take some time and list them all out. When you are done, go back and circle all the ones that you can do now. (Sure, it may take some work on self and some self discovery…but most of the things that bothered me when I was dieting, didn’t go away by getting to “that” number.)
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You can begin to live your best life now!
“You were meant for more than JUST dieting”.
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Comment below to share what you find by creating the inventory list yourself. Are you living in the present or waiting until you’ve arrived at your “destination” to be the “real” you!?
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Let’s talk about judgement for a second. Ok?
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When it comes to weight and body image, I can’t even begin to tell you how judgmental I was. So I get it. But if you’ve been feeling judgemental, hear me out…ok?
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I don’t mean judgmental of the other girls at this point, my friend. ?
I mean why are you judging you? If that was going to help you…it would’ve helped a long time ago. RIght?
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Would you ever talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself?
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So today, I want to give you a bit of (what I’ve found to be) great advice. Be nice to you. If you wouldn’t say those mean things to your kid, don’t say them to yourself either. I know it’s hard. Habits that began a long ago take a long time to unlearn…but you are worth it!
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The way my mentor explained it was a few great questions…

1. You love your kids, right?

2. Would you ever feed them a whole bag of chocolate because they were sad? ( But on the flip side, would you tell them they couldn’t ever eat any chocolate because they would be better if they were thin?)

3. How can you treat yourself in a way that feels loving, and be good to the “little kid” in you?
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So, what i want to propose to YOU on this fine day is…
If you find this helpful, maybe you too would benefit from some “reparenting”. How can you be the parent you always needed? ❤
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Comment below or send me a message for more info. I’m here for you. It might not feel easy to reach out right now, but it will be worth it. In order to get a different result, we have to make changes to what we were doing, right? I might be a stranger to you, but I’m really nice…I swear!

Are you tired of constantly searching for that one perfect diet? I get it. I used to be completely immersed in diet culture. I was obsessed with being thin.
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Today I want to share with you one of the benefits of making peace with the war on weight.
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Here is the thing about it. When I was completely immersed in diet culture (maybe you know what that feels like to wonder what is wrong with me? Why don’t I just have the will power to stick to my diet?)
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I get it. The truth is the media tells us it should be like that. We definitely should not be happy if we are even a little bit chubby. However, by being so obsessed with my diet-I completely missed out on many other great things in life.
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For example, since I was constantly failing at dieting (meaning I would try hard all day and then by the end of the day my resilience had worn off) and then I would eat off my plan). I swear every time I got back on my diet and then fell back off, it sent a subconscious message to myself that since I was a failure at dieting, I was a failure in life, right?
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I literally spent almost 25 years sending myself an indirect message that I’d never be good at anything because I wasn’t good at dieting (sorta ridiculous, isn’t it?)
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Thankfully I had mentors that care and by giving up the obsession with being at an exact weight I also began to see that…lo and behold (just like all other people) I do have natural strengths.
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For example, I am good at encouraging people. Thats why coaching comes naturally for me. I really like to hear what is important to other people and encourage them to realize they too have strengths. I love to point out what they’re doing well because it is fulfilling for me to see other people feel good about themselves. Its like a mirror. When I help others feel good about themself, it makes me feel happy too. Positive energy is contagious, right?
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Anyhow, my point being by giving up the obsession that I’ve had with a certain number on the scale, I have been able to see I do have a strengths after all.
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Ive found my passion – coaching and cheering others on along their journey. I’m a total people person. You guys light up my life. So, I thank YOU! ❤️