I’ve had people tell me relationships feel supportive to their diet, but I’ve also had people say it makes it harder. . Personally, when I feel understood and loved I tend to have less struggle in relationship to food. So therefore, I find great value in working on having a good relationship with my people, especially my hubby. . You know what helps me in relationship? It’s curiousity! . For example, one can assume they knew what the other person meant and feel offended. Or when you notice you felt hurt by what the other said, you could ask…what did you mean by that? . It may sound simple, but when triggered by a comment made by someone who knows you REAL well…i won’t lie…It can feel really tough. However, with practice it gets easier. . What makes it easier to catch myself before reacting to a comment made by my own dear hubby is learning to be more aware. Being more conscious, practicing being more present in the current moment. (The awesome thing about asking more questions is it gives my best friend a chance to explain what he meant rather than be misunderstood and I get my feelings hurt less often.) . How about you…what have you found helps you in your closest relationships. Comment below to share.
Day off with the hubby (and food). How does that go for you? . If you are anything like I’ve been, it may be a bit complicated. Like of course I wanna head to the beach with my hubby and I can’t imagine saying no, like ever! But, the food thing tended to end up complicated. . When in diet culture, I felt like since I’m not at my “perfect” weight (where does that number even come from, but anyhow..) I had to be on a diet. So we had to pack up all the things, like a cooler full of fruit and veggie options and some snacks, but only the ones allowed on my plan for me. And then we had to stop at a certain coffee shop, Java crew cuz they are the only shop who has that certain sugar free white mocha mix I actually like and that is the only way it’s low enough calorie (sugar free). (Honestly, i ended up falling off my plan and eating kids candy or something every time anyhow, so I’m not sure why It took me 15 married years to figure this out….but anyhow!) . My point being, if it feels complicated. I get it. And if you’ve got a keeper (like I do Martin Seiter) he probably doesn’t complain much. But, what if…what if I told you there is another way? . There’s a life of freedom from diet culture where you get to choose whether you want to obsess about every calorie or enjoy life at the beach and food and eat your veggies a different day. There’s a life where your whole day doesn’t revolve around what you eat or don’t eat and you can enjoy the sand on your feet and actually be at ease. There’s a life where you don’t think much about the food and just hit the road, then stop for what sounds good and only eat til full. . There’s a life, where you can actually enjoy your life. You can actually be happy no matter what you weigh. If this is a life you want to have too… I promise you, my friend…no number on the scale could ever create THIS feeling for you. . You were meant for so much more than JUST dieting! My hope for you is that one day (soon) you believe it too. ❤
Are you a mama who just wants to get the weight off? Especially after being mostly home with little people, we realize it does seem easier to gain weight than lose it…doesn’t it? (what’s it called the covid-15…?) . I get it. Believe me, it may seem like life will be so much better once you lose the weight. And yes, we can get around better and probably do have more energy when at a healthy body weight. . However, I would love to spare you the disappointment I felt when I got to my goal (after 25 years of trying) and nothing was any easier…when it comes to food habits. . So, one thing I have found helpful and want to share with YOU is this…. . When determining what plan or style of eating you hope to incorporate into your life….remember the people you are responsible for feeding. It may seem an insignificant thing….And yes, I spent years eating my “special” foods cuz I was dieting. But the pounds lost “that” way came right back. . For sustainable weight loss, we must establish what habits are sustainable long term. . If you are done with the yo-yo of quick fix diet methods and want results that last….let’s talk. . My name’s Jen and I offer stress-less eating coaching where we experience long lasting results.
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If you’ve been working on getting to that one number, or trying super hard to stay there…I get it. I was too. . But if you stop and think about it, you may realize that is just a number you one day determined you should weigh. . I know that is what happened to me. One day I looked around, I was bigger than a lot of my teenage friends so I looked up what I should weigh and the encyclopedia (yea, I’m that old) told me at 5 foot you should be 100 pounds and every inch after that you “got” 5 pounds more and wa-la. I decided I was fat. . My point, friends!? If this resonates with you it may be time to re-evaluate. What story are you telling yourself. . What is truly important to you? . Is it important just to get to a certain number on a scale or are experiences and making memories a more worthwhile goal? . Personally, I’ve re-evaluated (and I won’t lie, it was hard to change habits I spent a long time forming) but I now have more practical goals. . Now my goal is to eat in the way that supports the life i want to be living, regardless of what the scale itself says. . People will remember how you treated them and how they felt while with you. Most likely, no one else cares at all what number you actually weigh. . Comment below and share – Are you happy with your current goals? Or is it time to revisit them – if so, message me. ❤️