Let’s talk about maturity for just a minute, shall we?

As teenagers we tend to notice the change in our shape and size. Then as women, we tend to compare ourselves to one another. As teenagers we don’t “know better” and understand what really matters in life.

But as time goes on, it’s critical to learn to incorporate balance in life. Another key lesson is to recognize the importance of knowing one’s own values and priorities. I’d say that maturing and learning these lessons is what has brought about the transformation that I’ve experienced with food and body in the last few years.

Personally before my training at The Institute for the Psychology of Eating, I was obsessed with being thin and quite honestly that was a top priority for me to feel happy and successful. But at some point as healing occurred and I began to understand myself better, I began to recognize the importance of living up to my actual values in life as a mom and wife and friend; not just being concerned with my looks.

I finally realized (that although I can be both) if I was asked to make a choice between the two – I would rather be a fat but happy grandma (in the future) than a thin, but cranky old lady my grandkids just know about but don’t necessarily want to spend time with

The media does tend to feed us a different story. I’ll be honest, it is a battle to not get caught again in the web of stories like – thin is better.

What has helped me a lot is to regularly practice actionable affirmations to remind myself of the decisions I’ve made. For example; I’m choosing to live up to my potential rather than wasting time being obsessed with my looks.

The reality is this – Other people won’t remember how you looked as much as they will remember how you made them feel.

I’m choosing to prioritize how I feel over how I look. And personally, I believe healthy weight and a healthy state of mind go hand in hand.

You’ve only got one life to live. That’s the message I choose to cling to no matter what I weigh.

If you are anything like I’ve been you are probably looking mostly at calories in and calories burned (looking at food eaten and exercise completed) when it concerns weight loss.
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Well…what I think is important to share is, that what we eat is only half of it. The other half of the equation is the state we are eating in. Stressed or relaxed eating can make a huge difference.
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Here’s the thing, in order to have optimal digestion and calorie burning capacity it’s critical to eat in a relaxed state.
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An example of this is – if you are running from a tiger, your life is at stake … your body goes into a fight or flight response. (All energy gets channeled into fleeing from danger and saving your life). At that point, the focus wouldn’t be on digesting your food. Right?
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Are you relaxed or stressed when you eat? If you’ve been rushing through your meals, slowing down could be just the key you need. Let me know your thoughts by commenting below. Ok!?

The suns out and it feels so right! ..During this time especially, I have realized more than ever how easy it is to take the simple good things in life for granted. ..It’s just instinct. It’s more natural for our brain to focus on the negative.

That’s why I feel it’s important to remind us all to incorporate a regular practice of intentional mindset work. ..Positivity is powerful

-research shows that people who are positive tend to grow more neurons in the problem solving portion of the brain.

-did you know it’s physically impossible to be grateful and stressed at the same time?

-optimism boosts our immune system.

Do you have a regular routine that includes mindset work? Comment below to share how it benefits you or to let me know you’d like a worksheet that helps me “rewire for happiness”.

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If you are feeling impatient, just wishing this whole corona thing could all be over already … I hear you. I Totally get it (read 4 cooped up kids and a untrained puppy and 2 parents working from home and homeschooling. Lol)
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However, I feel it’s important for us to understand the following – by “just wanting this to all be over ASAP” we create a stress response in our body which affects digestion and assimilation of our food. Stress causes inflammation and all manner of health problems.
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Patience on the other hand creates a relaxation response (which is the optimal state of digestion) and also supports better health overall.
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When we learn to better regulate our emotions we can learn to relax into
the current day. There are opportunities for learning lessons in the NOW, in this current moment…that we miss by not being present.
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Drop a comment below to share – what will you choose?
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▪️Will you choose to react or to respond?
▪️Is life happening to you or is life happening for you?
▪️Will you choose to control your emotions or let your emotions control you?
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I’m here for you. So just send me a message if there is anything I can do to support you! ?